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Oh, ND, where do I fit into your world view, chuckie egg?<br /><br />(And yes, I give some great rhetoric during sexual scenes about it being all about my pleasure, and her pleasure is purely incidental to that - but that's called "roleplay"...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-32563087589333201812009-06-22T01:38:06.207-07:002009-06-22T01:38:06.207-07:00I mean, I know the party line on, "demand equ...<i>I mean, I know the party line on, "demand equal pleasure - make sure he goes down on you," and I've certainly repeated that myself.</i><br /><br />I sometimes wonder why I've never had the self-recriminations on the whole potential "What the hell is wrong with me that I don't enjoy receiving oral sex" front. (Sensation too intense; goes straight through pleasure to overstimulation-pain the overwhelming majority of the time, and I am not a masochist.) I never did, though, perhaps because that was so obviously a neurology thing that it couldn't be a mental defect, heh.<br /><br />But I'm not orgasm-focused in general, either. For the most part, I don't object to having 'em, but I don't have them as a <i>goal</i> in most sex because there's other stuff I like <i>more</i>. Which is another place that orgasm-tallying reciprocation thing falls down - the assumption that everyone wants the same thing out of sex, and that that thing is the o-word every time.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-33872853777385046882009-06-21T20:28:20.846-07:002009-06-21T20:28:20.846-07:00But I also think that you're doing that in a w...<i>But I also think that you're doing that in a worthless way if you don't let people define pleasure for themselves.</i><br /><br />Yeah, this exactly. And I maybe had a strong emotional reaction to this post, but THIS point is the one that only really started to sink home while reading 9/2's post.<br /><br />I mean, I know the party line on, "demand equal pleasure - make sure he goes down on <i>you</i>," and I've certainly repeated that myself. <br /><br />And felt like a hypocritical sack of shit when I did it, because my own interest in orgasm is significantly lower than my interest in other things. (Like, say, theirs.) I mean, I like orgasm, but I don't want it that often. If my <i>partner</i> had more orgasms than I did, I would not necessarily consider that a problem. Nor, "unequal," in the way that I define unequal.<br /><br />I've spent years trying (and failing) to find a way to "fix" that, on the assumption that people like 9/2 are right that I feel this way because of the patriarchy.<br /><br />I'm now kind of pissed at myself for swallowing that line whole and not asking why individual physiology - brain wiring, body chemistry, whatever - is being ignored in that analysis.<br /><br />I mean, yes, "You have sexual needs which are just as important as your partner's," is a good thing to say. And it's fundamentally opposed to, say, "You're a frigid bitch."<br /><br />But, funny, I get a really similar, "ur doin it rong," feeling from, "Your pleasure in doing X is only second-hand," (and, by implication, second-<i>best</i>) as I do from, "you're frigid," considering how important to me the things falling under X are. <br /><br />I made a list the other night of things that <i>most</i> turn me on. (No real reason - I just like nice, orderly lists.) It's about a page and a half long. While reading the comments over there, I came to the sudden realisation that there is literally <i>not a single thing</i> on that list which is okay by 9/2's crowd. Not a single thing! I maybe shouldn't let that upset me so much, but I have.<br /><br />This is sexually liberating somehow? I don't think so.Beannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-30799554098357427922009-06-21T19:30:41.731-07:002009-06-21T19:30:41.731-07:00"While breaking the rules for the sake of bre..."While breaking the rules for the sake of breaking the rules may look the same as authentic rebellion, at least on the surface, it's a different thing because the motivation is still about the external rule. It makes one just as easily manipulated as the person who feels compelled to comply. But a person who can act out of their authentic self, whether they happen to act in ways that are aligned with the rules or not, is much less easily swayed."<br /><br />I'm not entirely convinced of that, C. I do think some rebellion is hollow. Of course that's true. But I think that often, "hollow" rebellion is a rung on a ladder of self-knowledge, a step in a process. If a rule has held you hostage, breaking it can be the important first step to self-awareness.<br /><br />I don't think we should be quick to say we know when, how, or who is remaining stuck in the "empty rebellion" stage. As I've said here many times, I think the only sex lives we can judge are those of individuals with whom we actually interact.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-7155305191913136682009-06-21T19:26:26.796-07:002009-06-21T19:26:26.796-07:00"I was, in fact, working on the assumption th..."I was, in fact, working on the assumption that fantasies are OK, because, you know...thoughts..."<br /><br />But your mind must be clean! Otherwise the terrorists win.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-17027947396728068382009-06-21T13:39:18.927-07:002009-06-21T13:39:18.927-07:00Word.
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That's so ridiculous it's gold.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-11280626175497942952009-06-21T12:51:07.047-07:002009-06-21T12:51:07.047-07:00Yeah, exactly Bean. I'm a top. My sex life doe...Yeah, exactly Bean. I'm a top. My sex life does not look like the "reciprocal" sex life they want everyone to strive for. Does that mean I'm awesome because I have most of the orgasms, or does that mean I'm an evil male-like greedy asshole? I really don't know. (Then ask yourself whether it's really lopsided, given that he gets most of the direct physical stimulation from the SM that we do.)<br /><br />I do think it is worth looking critically at cultural norms that say that the man should have the lion's share of the pleasure.<br /><br />But I also think that you're doing that in a worthless way if you don't let people define pleasure for themselves. Some people really enjoy sex that these folks would not define as "reciprocal."Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-2566365334446963042009-06-21T05:14:47.575-07:002009-06-21T05:14:47.575-07:00Also, my favorite unanswered provocation on that t...Also, my favorite unanswered provocation on that thread:<br /><br /><i>"Well you’re assuming it IS ok to fantasise about Brad Pitt"</i><br /><br />Fuck yeah I am.<br /><br />And good luck with the army of thought police whose job is to get people to stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-21524639209477195672009-06-21T04:27:06.743-07:002009-06-21T04:27:06.743-07:00I hate these discussions so much I cannot even say...I hate these discussions so much I cannot even say. <br /><br />This is maybe a minor point in all of that, but I hate their concept of "reciprocation." <br /><br />See, to me, reciprocation in sex would mean something like, "We each do <i>what turns us on</i> as much as the other person agrees to it, and hopefully this overlaps a lot. Otherwise, we compromise." Something like that.<br /><br />Their concept seem to go like, "Well, okay, give him head, I guess. But only if he's doing the same for you. Whether you're actually interested or not. The most important thing is that you're getting enough friction on your genitals to balance out all that nasty 'second-hand' pleasure you've been brainwashed into liking."<br /><br />Hey, um. I don't know about these people, but "second-hand" pleasure feels pretty <i>good</i> to me. Better, in some ways, than "first-hand" pleasure. (Assuming I can even make a distinction between the two when they both cause me to, uh, feel pleasure. First-hand.)<br /><br />But that's bad and patriarchal and stuff - "second-hand" is not good enough, regardless of how good it feels. <br /><br />The underlying tone here (and in many other discussions just like this one) is, to me: "Hey, your whole sexuality is shit! Your every fantasy sucks! Way to uphold the patriarchy every time you orgasm!" [And wow, haven't even brought kink into it yet.] <br /><br />"You're anti-feminist if you don't spend your life having utterly sub-par sex and pretending you're deeply fulfilled by sex acts which bore you! <br /><br />"P.S. When you fail to gain appropriate amounts of pleasure from being stimulated in approved ways, please allow us to shake our heads at what terribly sad proof you are that the patriarchy <i>damages</i> people raised female."<br /><br />Yeah! Fight the Man!<br /><br />/intensely bitter<br /><br /><br />Seriously? Seriously. Fuck them.Beannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-17904158755212784362009-06-20T07:10:46.474-07:002009-06-20T07:10:46.474-07:00Thank you so much, Ms. Pet.Thank you so much, Ms. Pet.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-40916875778711304502009-06-18T22:59:13.324-07:002009-06-18T22:59:13.324-07:00Trinity, you are an inspiration, a true Sexual Fre...Trinity, you are an inspiration, a true Sexual Freedom Fighter, and you have spent much time fighting, many times on your own, against a Second Wave Lesbian Sex War style attack. <br /><br />Of COURSE you can't do it alone. I understand you're being burned out, I'm pretty burned out myself, regarding the last three to four years, I've been talking about all this stuff, and I haven't had to deal with all that you have. <br /><br />So PLEASE, be kind to yourself and give yourself time to reenergize. There's got to be at least ONE other leatherwoman with feminist training out there who can grab that torch from you, isn't there? I'd grab it, but honey, I don't have the feminist academic training to be able to go toe to toe with these gals like you do. I'm better at challenging people street wise, being a loud mouth, and connecting with other Leathercrip sisters. I simply don't have your knowledge or skills. <br /><br />Please know how grateful I am to you, for your blog and all that you have done, caring enough to put Feminist BDSM onto the Internet. <br /><br />In Sisterhood,<br />Ms. PetAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760704342202547222.post-55002566591647385372009-06-16T19:18:57.003-07:002009-06-16T19:18:57.003-07:00I was not clear in my attempts to argue that calls...I was not clear in my attempts to argue that calls to reasonableness are power plays, even when done by feminists... 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