After writing this I wound up thinking a bit about "examining one's desires" and why, exactly, I think it's a faulty way ...

The following quote caught my eye, from a post of Q|D's on a book I really need to look up and read: Jeffreys was asked to elaborate on...

xposted from my LJ, with a special think-fu addition for this blog, cuz we're all thinksome like that :) I've been thinking about di...

Is it... A more egalitarian or 'ethical' approach to BDSM relationships and dynamics? A resistance to much of the traditional, gende...

I was just thinking of a comment of Verte's in another thread, wherein she mentioned asking people into male-supremacist BDSM "why ...

...no, not the fetish. a bit of good discussion at the end of the comments to this some of it pretty personal to get dredged up in an entry...

just a moderatorly gab here: allow deleting posts? er not? because i'm a bit ashamed of my uberventfest today and yesterday and rather w...

reposted from a comment of mine here : Dw3t-Hthr: "And I'm just kinda going, "Uh, force is force. It doesn't have balls or...

I had written up a long post, but it got eaten. I've been thinking a lot lately about binaries. The binaries in SM sex. Top and bottom...

When bending gender around can be described as a fetish, and you combine that with a sizeable population of transmen and transwomen in a sma...