Have any of you out there reading this blog ever decided not to engage in certain kinky activities because they go against your principles?
Have any of you examined your desires and decided that any of them clearly result from patriarchy or other oppressive systems? If so, has this affected what you're willing to do, or is it something you don't think matters?
I ask because one thing I've noticed about the current "examination" kerfuffles is that while most of the pro-SM folks say either
- "I tried that and it yielded nothing useful," or
- "Why? How have you made sure you are not invested in a system that posits that we are deviant and therefore require explanation, while you do not?"
However, I rarely see people on our side who value examination commenting here. McStar, Ren's anonymous commenter, anyone else: are you here?
Can you explain why you feel examining is useful? If you're someone who wants to examine and seeks examination discussions from the pro-SM side, what is it you're looking for?